You would be AMAZED at how choosing to be genuinely vulnerable with others is incredibly empowering. It actually speaks to your strength of character. There’s nothing else that creates a quicker connection nor a more healthy opening for genuine interaction and effective solutioning than choosing to be vulnerable.

The next time you’re at an impasse with someone, or with a situation, consider expressing how you really feel (underneath the defensive frustration.) Here’s a few phrases to try on:

  1. I’m really confused here…
  2.  This feels wrong, but I don’t know what else to do.
  3. Wow, you’re right; I totally dropped the ball on that one. What do you suggest I/we do from here?
  4. I’m totally at a loss…
  5. You’re really important to me and the way this is going down feels crappy and I don’t know how to turn it around.
  6. I feel like an idiot here. Can you help me understand…?
  7. Help me understand, how did we get here?
  8. Help me understand why you’re so frustrated with me?
  9. I can honestly say I’m heartbroken over…
  10. I know something’s not right, but I simply can’t see it. Can you see what I’m missing?
  11. I’m so very sorry. And there is no excuse. Is there a way I can make this right?
  12. I hate to admit this, especially as the big cheese, but I’ve gotten kind of rusty at this. Will you show me again how to do this?
  13. I totally own that one…
  14. I didn’t always know this – I learned the hard way when I goofed up…
  15. I’m terrified. And I have all the faith in the world that if anyone can make this work, we can.
  16. I knew the right answer and I took the easy way out causing…
  17. I am so embarrassed. I can’t believe I…
  18. I literally stayed up last night worried about…

And let me know how it goes 😉